Ugh. Men! Dealing with them in and of itself is a lesson in acceptance.
In my frustration this morning, I jokingly said that after God made Adam, he vowed right then and there never to make anymore mistakes. From that point on, He was totally perfect and in control. (I’m a Christian and I love my God. This was totally a joke. I hope no one finds it offensive.)
How is it that a man can open the pantry and not see the bottle of ketchup sitting on the shelf, directly in front of him BUT he can find the last bottle of beer that got lost behind the fruitcake from Christmas?
He can be sitting right across from you and ask, HUH? What did you say? Then in the next moment he springs to his feet, throws his fist up in the air and yells YEAH! He heard the TV announcer declare TOUCHDOWN – and the TV is in another room.
Ever notice how your honey-do list is slow to get done but he’ll spend all day cleaning out the garage or working on his car?
My husband is working on our bathroom renovation and suddenly he’s found time to do that, take us to dinner, spend time with and give our daughter a bath AND do his homework. But I swear the other day he was too busy to do anything but his homework.
He just walked upstairs and I started to say, “I’ll be making phone calls for…” He slams the door to the bathroom shut. He didn’t hear a peep out of me. I wonder how to get him that focused in the future.
That reminded me of something I recently read in Understanding How Other Misunderstand You by Ken Voges & Ron Braund.
- You cannot motivate other people.
- However, all people are motivated.
- People become motivated to action for their own reasons – not the reasons others have for them.
- The very best a motivator can do is create a healthy environment that allows others to motivate themselves into action.
My thought for the day: I can choose to focus on the past and the negative or I can find praise in the present. My thought life affects my behavior. There is something to be learned in every situation. What can I do better or differently next time? That’s the question to ask. Why spend time focused on what the other person should have or could have done when I have no control over that.